Dealing with conflict in your home

Living with new people can be really stressful, in your first year you are thrown into a house with a group of strangers, even when it comes to your second year living with a group of friends, you can still have problems. One of the hardest things you learn at university, in my opinion, is dealing with conflict within your university house.

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My Housemates this year- I love them!

In the beginning.

When you first move into a house the best idea is to sit down as a group, and have a house chat. If you begin the year by talking about what you all expect from each other and how you want the house to be kept and how to split house cost, you will all know from the beginning.

In my second year I found that we had 2 guys who wanted everything tidy, all the time, and 2 girls (including me) Who wasn’t that great at keeping things tidy.

I would also say that, although it horrible, you need to start talking about money ASAP. Will you all put money into buying bin bags and other cleaning stuff? Will you all alternate who buys them? The big cause of tension, in my experience, is paying the bills. If it is being paid out by one person in the group then create a standing order into their account so you don’t have to remember every month. If not try and find a company that sorts it out for you (I use split the bills)

When tension starts. 

The first sign about their being a problem within your house, is the tension, last year my house was filled with it constantly.

You need to, once again, talk to your housemates. Arrange a time when you can all get together, preferably not after a stressful exam or straight after a lecture. One of the most important things I think you need to remember in the conversation is that you need to try and see things from the other person’s point of view as well.

All sides need to honestly talk to each other about their feelings, without trying to make the other side feel bad and without getting too emotional.

Once you have realised the problem then you can work out what you can do to change to fix all your problems. Try and find a way to make sure you problems stay resolved and you don’t end up hating each other again in a few weeks.

Some really important thing. 

If your frustrations between your housemates get difficult, go and speak to your student services at university. They have seen everything and they will know how to help you out.

If you are being put in danger through your housemates actions or if they are threatening you then you can also talk to your student services and they will help with the next step. This can involve them having a disciplinary at university or helping you contact the authorities.

I hope all your problems get sorted out soon.

My Confessions. 

-In my second year of uni I lived with a couple who I never got on with. 

-My third year of uni is amazing and I love my housemates. 

-I am terrible at writing on a schedule sorry! 

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What to do this summer

So I am sure you are all bored to death of hearing about Cosmopolitan, so here I am finally with something else to talk about! Summer TIME!!!

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On Holiday with my friends

How to make the most of the summer!

As you get into university there are only a few more long summer time holidays, unless you become a teacher, so you want to make these moments count. I thought I would give you some great ways to truely make these summers count!

  1. Frankie says relax!

After the stress of a million assignments, talk of dissertations, and everything else that comes along with university life. The sumer is a much needed time to just take a break, it’s the first thing I do in the summer!

  1. Catch up.

What happened to all those friends you had at college that went of to universities around the country? And the family members you haven’t seen in months? Well the summer is the best time to get everyone together and remember the good ol’ days. As well as making new memories.  I am sure you have seen them since you have been at uni but probably not all together for a long time.

  1. Volunteer

Ok, I sound like a mega geek but using your summer holiday to volunteer or get a short internship in your chosen field can not only help your uni work, but might help you realize your hate the job you thought you would love! Best to find out now.

  1. Go away!

If you haven’t blown all of your student finance, or you got a bit of money for your work in the summer why not go away with a group of your friends. Weather it’s a festival or a trip abroad, it will be a great time to let you hair down and have fun with your mates.

  1. Do what you want!

The best bit about the summer is that without any university work you wont have to feel guilty for not doing any of it. So if you want to go away on holiday or stay up til 4 in the morning playing on FIFA every night. Just do whatever the hell you want. After all don’t forget you don’t have many of these super long holidays left.

I hope you have a great holiday.

Summer time Uni Confessions:

-I am hoping to go to a festival in spain this summer!

-My summers are normally pretty boring- Not this year.

-Fingers crossed the good weather keeps going.

-I have 2 jobs this summer- Ekk, mega busy.

some pintrest food!

My name is Lauren and I am addicted to pintrest.

I thought I would start off by saying I am really sorry for not posting in a while. I have been getting ready for uni and to be honest I seem more stressed about moving into a house this year than I have before. I have made a few videos of my packing process if you want to see them.

So while I have been away and getting ready for university I have been creating a number of different folders to help keep me organised. As you know, I love to cook so One of the folders I have created is a Recipe folder.

Searching Pintrest, in every waking minute, I have found a number of great recipes I have never heard of before in my life. A lot of the recipes seem kind of american, Can you have american food? So I thought I would share some recipes.

Buffalo Chciken Garbage bread. -Sound delisouse huh? Well it looks pretty yummy and very unhealthy!

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Ingredients

2 boneless chicken breasts
1 tsp. olive oil
1 pizza dough (I used store bought and let it sit out for about 20 minutes)
8 oz. of shredded mozzarella cheese (I used part skim)
3 oz. of shredded cheddar cheese
1/2 cup of Franks Wing Sauce
1/3 cup of ranch or blue cheese dressing

Directions

Cut chicken into cubes.  Season with salt and pepper.  Heat teaspoon of olive oil in skillet and add chicken when hot.  Cook chicken completely and then add 1/4 cup of wing sauce.  Stir to coat chicken and let simmer for a minute or two.  Take chicken off heat and let cool.

Pre-heat oven to 425°F.**

On a well floured surface, spread pizza dough into a long rectangle shape.

Add ranch dressing or blue cheese dressing (depending on your preference!) and remaining 1/4 cup of wing sauce.  Spread across the dough.  Add chicken and then top with mozzarella and cheddar cheese.  You can also add a bit more of the wing sauce on top of the cheese if you want it to be a little bit spicier.

Roll the dough like a pinwheel until you reach the end.  Make sure to tuck the ends of the dough in so the middle doesn’t ‘ooze’ out when baking.

Spray baking sheet with light coat of non-stick cooking spray.  Place garbage bread on the pan and bake for 20 to 25 minutes.

Her blog is: http://emmalinaviolet.wordpress.com/2011/11/16/buffalo-chicken-garbage-bread/

Pizza Quesadillas

Quesadillas are about the quickest thing you can make, and these cheesy tortillas tasted exactly like fresh oven-baked pizza, but required less than 10 minutes to make. Plus, they were way more fun because we got to dip them in the pizza sauce. The key ingredient to making them so mouth-watering was pan-fried high-quality pepperoni to give each bite the crispy texture reminiscent of real pizza. It was a high flavor payoff for a meal that took only a couple of minutes, and Chuy was a happy camper.

Pepperoni Pizza Quesadillas
Serves 4

  • 8 flour tortillas (I used Trader Joe’s handmade tortillas)
  • 8 ounces of shredded mozzarella cheese
  • 1/3 lb pepperoni
  • 1 16-ounce jar of pizza sauce
  • Optional: 1 6-ounce can of sliced black olives, 1 cup of sliced cremini mushrooms
  1. Heat a medium skillet over medium heat and fry the pepperoni until crisp. Transfer on a paper towel to drain.
  2. Brush each tortilla with a thin layer of pizza sauce (so thin that if you turned it over, none would drip).
  3. Sprinkle cheese on top of the sauce on the bottom tortilla. Top with pepperoni and other toppings, if desired. Sprinkle with another layer of cheese and place the other tortilla on top (sauce side in).
  4. Pre-heat a medium cast-iron skilled over medium heat.
  5. Lay quesadilla in the pan and cook for 3-5 minutes on each side, until cheese is melted and tortillas are crispy.
  6. Slice into quarters and serve with a little bowl of pizza dipping sauce.

http://www.snixykitchen.com/2012/04/20/pepperoni-pizza-quesadillas/