How to survive a long distance relationship- at uni.

When I came to university in my first year, in fact in my first week, I met a guy and very quickly we started dating. This was great, however when the holidays came we were nearly 100 miles apart. This year he has taken a year in work, while I am in my final year at university, this means we are no longer together at uni either.

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My long distance relationship- When we first met!

So I thought I would share my tips on how to survive a long distance relationship.

1. Do things together.

I know this seems stupid, your miles apart and you can’t do things together, but you can. Watch one of your favorite tv shows while on the phone to each other. Being able to watch something at the same time, and talk about what is going on makes it feel more like you are together.

2. Make sure you have a plan.

This one comes from my housemate, Abi, and I 100% agree with her. Make sure you have a plan of when you can next see each other. If you know that its only 3 weeks until you can be together again it makes saying goodbye all that much easier.

3. Do something special.

Whenever my boyfriend and I get together we try and make it special so we will go out for a meal or go on a date night. It means that you have a memory of the time you spent together rather than spending your precious time just sat in your bedroom.

4. Talk.

Talk about everything, have you had a bad day? Do you miss each other? The simple things like that can be wonderful to hear when your apart but you also need to talk about the difficult things. How will the relationship work long distance? Are you struggling or always arguing? You need to confide in each other.

5. Skype.

If your boyfriend doesn’t live in the middle of no-where with shockingly bad internet conenction then you may want to download Skype. The Video software allows you to see and talk to each other with the use of your webcams. I have known couples who talk to each other via Skype while doing uni work or on in the background for long periods of time.

6. 101 Questions

When you run out of things to say, this happens when everyday is ‘wrote more of my essay’ then ask each other questions. This website has 100 questions to ask each other http://www.everydaybetterliving.com/love_danger_signs/100_questions.html   great for when you cant think of what to say, and you could learn more about your relationship.

7.Gifts.

This isn’t something you have to do by any stretch of the imagination, but imagine if you were stressed about your assignment and a bunch of flowers turned up at your door. Or even a pizza!!

One of my friends has a boyfriend who will read through her work, make her dinner and look after her when she is stressed. This is harder when you are far apart but a little token to show you care can mean all the difference.

8. Make good friends.

I know you expected all of this list to be about your partner but some of the best ways to survive a long distance relationship is to have amazing friends. You need people who you can go to when your upset, angry or just a bit frustrated with life. Your friends will help you become happy and excited about the smallest things. My friends are amazing and we help each other through every stress and strain of a LDR.

9.Let your self be upset.

It’s ok to become upset by the little things. On the second night of freshers this year I ended up in floods of tears for the whole night for no reason what so ever apart from that I was getting used to uni without him. The next day I was fine!

10. Just relax.

Although being in a long distance relationship can be difficult and I don’t think that you should go into it lightly without talking through your parameters and thoughts behind your relationship. When your in the relationship you need to relax a little. Don’t panic over every little thing, if your meant to be together you will be, if not then you know it.

Are you in a long distance relationship?   What are your tips for coping.

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Fast Food: Vegetarian quesadilla

I haven’t done a food style blog post in a while and I thought it was time to get back to it so this is my lunch today. 

Ingredients

2 tortilla wraps 

grated cheddar and mozzarella cheese

1 small Onion 

1 chilli -no seeds

Fiery chili pesto

1/4 can Red Kidney Beans

 

Directions 

  1. cut the onion into small bite sized pieces and chop the chili into a very small pieces, making sure the seeds have been removed. 
  2. Put a tablespoon of pesto on one of the tortillas and smother all over the add cheese on top of the pesto.  
  3. Add the onion, Chilli and red kidney beans to the tortilla. Add the cheese before putting the second tortilla on the top. 
  4. Place your quesadilla into a pan and cook on both sides, or add a saucepan lid to your frying pan letting the top cook as well. 
  5. Cut into 4 pieces and Serve. 

 

Have you tried any of the previous food ideas? 

 

Lauren. 

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What I love: October!!

 I thought I would be fun to do an October favouritesImage, as it is now November! This month I have brought a lot of things for university and my new home so here we go! 

 

Candle

A few weeks before I went away to university, my mother and I went to a day spa, while I was there I brought a Yankee Candle. I have wanted one for years and with a damp and slightly smelly room I thought I finally deserve my candle. So I brought the ‘A Child’s Wishes’ Candle. It is an amazing smell, it is a spring smell really, with the smell of a spring morning in my opinion. Apparently it’s meant to make it feel like a child playing in the garden. 

 

Hair curling

I went to a wedding in september and ended up borrowing my sister-in-law’s hair curlers because mine were rubbish. After using them I decided to run out and buy some for myself. The BaByliss 2287BU Pro Curl 210 Styling Hair Tongs, have a number of different heat settings and create a really nice curl! 

 

Red Lipstick 

I have been in love with red lipstick over the past couple of weeks and brought a few different types of lipsticks. I got the Max Factor Color Elixer in Ruby Tuesday. It is such an a amazing true red color and looks great on. 

 

Essay research

Every time I am researching for essays, including my dissertation, I begin by looking at Google Scholar and Google books. They provide you with loads of Journals and books for every subject and they also give you all the information you need for referencing! PERFECT!!!

 

Primark!

So, I am a student so this has to be on here. I am in love with primark, especially in the lead up to both Halloween and a fancy dress part this weekend! They have great onsies, lovely outfits and accessories. Primark you are taking all my money!!

 

Extentions 

 I have talked about my extensions before on here and I am still in love with them. 

I wore them on a night out with my friends and I loved having long curly hair! Going to wear them to a number of parties over the next few weeks. 

 

I hope you had a great October and looking forward to November! 

 

Lauren

5 really easy Halloween Costumes for uni students

It’s almost that time of year, when witches, ghosts and werewolf all come out to play. If your at uni, it is probably going to be a big night out, actually a big couple of nights! So here at Uni Confessions HQ we thought we could come up with some fancy dress ideas for you!

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Black Swan 

What is scarier than a schizophrenic Ballet dancer? Ok a lot, but it makes a nice looking costume!

All you need is a black top (preferably strapless) and tutu, put your hair up into a bun. For your makeup you need flawless foundation, a very dark eye and red/dark lips. It’s the makeup that makes this outfit work!

Witch 

I can guarantee you will see a hundred witches on your night out, but let’s be honest it’s easy!

Get out your little black dress, you must own one! Simply add a witches hat (this will be stolen by most of the people in the club) I told you this was easy. Once again I would go with a dark eye look.

Pirate

My flatmate has been searching through her dressing up box, something owned by both 5 year olds and uni students. She has finally decided on wearing a pirates costume, and this is how you can do it.

Get a white shirt, one with ruffles on the front would be great. Add leggings or loose skirt, put a thick belt around your waist and add a bandana to your head. If you want to go all the way don’t forget your eye patch! Boots would look great with this but you might get a bit hot!

Cereal Killer 

While I was looking for ideas for halloween I found this and thought it looked very funny.

Go to your nearest super market and get a multipack of cereal (the little ones) stick these to a t-shirt using double sided tape add some fake blood and some plastic knives. Carry around a fake bloody knife and you are all set, plus you have breakfast!

Just add blood

If you want a really simple costume, just wear what you normally would on a night out, or an outfit you already have (cheerleading, rubgy ect.) add a white face, black ringed eyes and blood. Back comb your hair and you are all set to go.

Don’t get too scared!

Lauren x

How to use Facebook to organise your house.

Isn’t Facebook an amazing creation? Half my university life is centred around it; I have a facebook page for my uni course, the societies I am part of and of course my job is working with social media, so it only seems right that I use social media to organise my home. 

 

At the beginning of the year, in fact up until this week, we had a group message that we all wrote on about everything from nights out,  cleaning the kitchen to random jokes. However everything got lost somewhere along the conversation and if you came in half way through the day you often had a million comments to read so I decided we should use a facebook group.

 

They are dead simple to set up. You simply go on ‘Create Group’ in the left hand panel. Name your group (mine is called Our House!) pick an icon to represent your group and select who can view the group. My group is set as ‘Secret’ so that only we can see what we write- I don’t need others to know I’m a bossy boots.

 

We now can create different statuses for different conversations, upload your homely pictures and documents. Since It has been set up we have created a rotating list of chores we need to do which hasn’t been lost amongst our halloween plans! 

 

So do you use social media at uni? 

Dealing with conflict in your home

Living with new people can be really stressful, in your first year you are thrown into a house with a group of strangers, even when it comes to your second year living with a group of friends, you can still have problems. One of the hardest things you learn at university, in my opinion, is dealing with conflict within your university house.

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My Housemates this year- I love them!

In the beginning.

When you first move into a house the best idea is to sit down as a group, and have a house chat. If you begin the year by talking about what you all expect from each other and how you want the house to be kept and how to split house cost, you will all know from the beginning.

In my second year I found that we had 2 guys who wanted everything tidy, all the time, and 2 girls (including me) Who wasn’t that great at keeping things tidy.

I would also say that, although it horrible, you need to start talking about money ASAP. Will you all put money into buying bin bags and other cleaning stuff? Will you all alternate who buys them? The big cause of tension, in my experience, is paying the bills. If it is being paid out by one person in the group then create a standing order into their account so you don’t have to remember every month. If not try and find a company that sorts it out for you (I use split the bills)

When tension starts. 

The first sign about their being a problem within your house, is the tension, last year my house was filled with it constantly.

You need to, once again, talk to your housemates. Arrange a time when you can all get together, preferably not after a stressful exam or straight after a lecture. One of the most important things I think you need to remember in the conversation is that you need to try and see things from the other person’s point of view as well.

All sides need to honestly talk to each other about their feelings, without trying to make the other side feel bad and without getting too emotional.

Once you have realised the problem then you can work out what you can do to change to fix all your problems. Try and find a way to make sure you problems stay resolved and you don’t end up hating each other again in a few weeks.

Some really important thing. 

If your frustrations between your housemates get difficult, go and speak to your student services at university. They have seen everything and they will know how to help you out.

If you are being put in danger through your housemates actions or if they are threatening you then you can also talk to your student services and they will help with the next step. This can involve them having a disciplinary at university or helping you contact the authorities.

I hope all your problems get sorted out soon.

My Confessions. 

-In my second year of uni I lived with a couple who I never got on with. 

-My third year of uni is amazing and I love my housemates. 

-I am terrible at writing on a schedule sorry! 

The Zara City Bag

When I was trying to work out what to ask for as a Birthday Present this year (end of April). I was trawling the internet looking for inspiration when I saw a youtube video about this bag, and it looked perfect. Since I was in about year 10 at school, I have used hundreds of different bags to carry my school/college/university books around in, and they all break really quickly!

My requirements for this bag where that they could hold a lot of stuff, I carry university books, notebooks, folders and want something I could take home for the weekend. It also needed to be stylish, I wanted to carry it around at university without looking sloppy.

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The city bag from Zara

The bag has five main sections, all about the same size. 3 of them are zip fastened and two just have large magnetic poppers. The two sections with poppers also have some organizational stuff within them. The first has a section for your phone, a section for 5 cards and a small zipped area, I tend to use this as the ‘handbag area’ to keep my keys, purse and phone in them. The other section has a padded zipped area within in perfect for holding a tablet.

The two outside zipped areas are just normal large sized pouches, which are perfect for folders, notebooks ect. The middle zipped up area is padded all around so you can store a laptop in it. The padding is actually quiet thick so your laptop won’t get hurt and as it’s in the middle it would be knocked is you hit the bag against something or if you drop it.

The bag looks really stylish with the plain black textured material, gold zips, poppers and the metal sections on the handles. Inside of the bag is lined with a dark sort of aubergine purple. The lining also goes all around the main pockets with the exception of the ‘handbag section’ which has black leather look sections.

The inside

The inside

Over all I really like this bag and holds loads, in fact more that I would every want to carry. The lining really gives the bag a sophisticated look and stands up to everything I have put it through.

The only bad thing I can find is that the zips don’t close seamlessly, they quiet often get stuck at some point along the zip. They always do close however it does take a lot of fiddling, I have heard some other bag owners say that have similar problems, so I don’t just have a dodgy one.

If they could sort the zip out this bag would be perfect, as it is it’s average and I will use it. However It does make it use slightly harder.

Hope your all well!

Lauren.