Dealing with conflict in your home

Living with new people can be really stressful, in your first year you are thrown into a house with a group of strangers, even when it comes to your second year living with a group of friends, you can still have problems. One of the hardest things you learn at university, in my opinion, is dealing with conflict within your university house.

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My Housemates this year- I love them!

In the beginning.

When you first move into a house the best idea is to sit down as a group, and have a house chat. If you begin the year by talking about what you all expect from each other and how you want the house to be kept and how to split house cost, you will all know from the beginning.

In my second year I found that we had 2 guys who wanted everything tidy, all the time, and 2 girls (including me) Who wasn’t that great at keeping things tidy.

I would also say that, although it horrible, you need to start talking about money ASAP. Will you all put money into buying bin bags and other cleaning stuff? Will you all alternate who buys them? The big cause of tension, in my experience, is paying the bills. If it is being paid out by one person in the group then create a standing order into their account so you don’t have to remember every month. If not try and find a company that sorts it out for you (I use split the bills)

When tension starts. 

The first sign about their being a problem within your house, is the tension, last year my house was filled with it constantly.

You need to, once again, talk to your housemates. Arrange a time when you can all get together, preferably not after a stressful exam or straight after a lecture. One of the most important things I think you need to remember in the conversation is that you need to try and see things from the other person’s point of view as well.

All sides need to honestly talk to each other about their feelings, without trying to make the other side feel bad and without getting too emotional.

Once you have realised the problem then you can work out what you can do to change to fix all your problems. Try and find a way to make sure you problems stay resolved and you don’t end up hating each other again in a few weeks.

Some really important thing. 

If your frustrations between your housemates get difficult, go and speak to your student services at university. They have seen everything and they will know how to help you out.

If you are being put in danger through your housemates actions or if they are threatening you then you can also talk to your student services and they will help with the next step. This can involve them having a disciplinary at university or helping you contact the authorities.

I hope all your problems get sorted out soon.

My Confessions. 

-In my second year of uni I lived with a couple who I never got on with. 

-My third year of uni is amazing and I love my housemates. 

-I am terrible at writing on a schedule sorry! 

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6 top tips for moving into a student house

I can’t believe that it is time to start packing up the boxes and heading back to university already! I’ve barely unpacked. I thought I would share a few hints and tips on how to make moving day a little less stressful.

  1. Be organized.

No matter what I am packing for I always like to make lists before I start to make sure I don’t leave anything behind. In my second year I moved into my house and realized I had taken 2 pairs of jeans 5 pairs of shorts and 2 skirts. I hasn’t planned and pretty much packed whatever. I ended up going home in the week to get more jeans and sweatshirts. It was a complete waste of time and money!

Whenever I plan ahead I know what I am taking, how many I am taking ect so I can see from my list I have everything.

  1. Pack Sensibly.

When you are packing I find it more sensible to pack according to type for example my folders, books and notebooks for all my lectures go in one box, I have box for Pots and pans and other for my undies and socks. This means when I am unpacking I can take the pans straight into the kitchen and put everything away more easily than if I were trying to search for everything.

  1. Don’t stress

This is the one thing I suck at when moving house. Every time I move I want everything to be sorted that day. If I don’t have things sorted out and in a place I feel unorganized, and a little over whelmed. You have the whole of freshers week to get sorted before you have to start university; it’s plenty of time.

  1. Use the Professionals!

The longer you are at university to more stuff you collect. Last year I brought a number of organizational things, decorative things and I almost brought a mirror. In the process of trying to sort out your new home you may find yourself buying new bits and pieces that you need.

This can mean that you can’t alway fit everything into your parents car. I have heard a lot of people who have said that in the 2nd and 3rd years they have to take more things either meaning they have to take multiple trips to university from home or hire a rental company.

Companies such as Ecomovers will help you move from home to university and back. They even provide storage facilities for people who don’t want to move everything back home over the summer!

5)Get sociable!

No matter weather it is your first year or your final year you need to spend time with your new housemates! Don’t forget to go out and have fun!! You want to make sure your year starts off really well after all you have a year with these people! Don’t annoy them.

  1. Have fun!

Fresher week is always fun so just relax. Don’t worry about moving, if you forget something it’s not the end of world.

Hope you have a great move!

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p.s. This blog was created in association with Ecomovers. All opinions are my own. http://www.ecomovers.co.uk/removal-services/student-removals

My Confessions!

-I am going on holiday this time next week.

-I have just had my nails done

-I am going to a wedding this weekend (pictures will be on the blog!)