Today is Football day in my house, that means 3 football games, 1 match of the day and games of PES and Fifa! So with that having been announced I decided that I would sort out my room and get blogging.
The other day I talked about the classic symptoms that you have become a student. One of those things was that I said was about feeling home sick. I wanted to go back and talk about this a little more. Over the last week I have felt really home sick so I understand what it feels like. I have also seen my elder step sister going through it.
I hope you don’t mind that this is another list of tips. I will do some proper posts soon.
A picture paints a thousand words
I know when you move away from home it can sometimes feel like you are leaving an old life behind and starting again. However that isn’t true, you a moving onto a new stage of life not a new life.
Keep memories of your friends and family around your room. Pictures are an obvious thing to put up, but letter from a friend or a trinket from the family holiday may also be great. Plus your childhood toy, if teddy got you this far you don’t have to ditch him now.
One of the main stresses that causes Home sickness is the worry of not having a place to go back to. So if you are feeling a little worried or homesick then think about going back. I am not saying you should unpack and hop straight back into the car with your parents.
You need to give your new home and possible friends a chance. Your life at university is a new experience and you will never find it the best experience if you don’t get in there.
Keep it the same
This tip is more aimed towards parents and siblings left behind. Although it is really tempting to see the large room becoming empty when your sister goes to uni as a great new room for you to move into. However this can make their university life even harder.
As I said before, homesicknes is mainly caused by the worry of having nowhere to retuern home to. So if you return home to the little box room after been kicked out of your room this makes the move even harder on you.
Get out there
When your feeling homesick it sometimes feels like the only thing to do is to lock yourself in your room and feel upset. However if you get out of your room, go on a night out or just round to a friends house, it takes your mind off your family back at home and gets you thinking about whats going on now.
Believe it or not phoning home actually wont make you miss home more. Checking in every now and then to make sure your mum’s ok, Your brothers test went well and the dog is been walked is perfectly fine. If you are living far away from home and can’t easily get back then think about downloading Skype on your laptop and home computer. If you have a fairly modern computer then you should be able to see and talk to your parents making everything seem better.
Stick at it.
On the first night at university it is easy to think that you have made a huge mistake. Don’t run away just yet though, give it a few days to get used to your new life and make friends. Once you have gone home you are likely to feel better.
see the Pro’s
If you are feeling especially homesick and feel it is actually getting in the way of your life then all universities, within the Uk at least, have a welfare section who can help you deal with home sickness including getting you to see a Councilor for free (you won’t get that out of uni!)
This post was written with some of my friends and families experience in mind as well as my own. I know of people who have dropped out of uni or moved uni’s because of feeling so homesick.